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Reel Abilities Sneak Preview Film September 3 NYC

JOIN REEL ABILITIES FOR A SPECIAL SNEAK PREVIEW OF KELLY & CAL

An unlikely friendship between Kelly (Juliette Lewis), a punk-rocker turned suburban mom, and seventeen-year-old Cal, who uses a wheelchair.

Wed, Sep 3, 7 PM The JCC in Manhattan 334 Amsterdam Ave @ 76th St

CLICK HERE FOR FREE TICKETS – http://www.jccmanhattan.org/film?page=cat-content&progid=30777

The film opens Sept. 5 at NYC’s IFC Center.

SAVE THE DATE * 7TH ANNUAL REELABILITIES: NY DISABILITIES FILM FESTIVAL * MARCH 12-18, 2015

ReelAbilities: NY Disabilities Film Festival is the largest festival in the country dedicated to promoting awareness and appreciation of the lives, stories and artistic expressions of people with different disabilities.

In venues throughout NY

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Artist With A Disability Draws With Success

CBS8.com reports: One very talented artist inspired fans at Comic-Con by drawing comics with a pen in his mouth.

Larime Taylor is the creator of “A Voice in the Dark,” a dramatic comic book series that follows a college girl born with the urge to kill.

The series debuted in November, and Taylor has been keeping busy. He writes, draws, tones and letters the book, all with his mouth.

Read the story.

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Human Services Council Launches New Campaign For COLA

HSC has launched a new campaign to advocate for a comprehensive Cost of Living Adjustment from the State. Over the next four months HSC, in coordination with the lobbying firm Malkin & Ross, will be developing and launching a Campaign that will focus on building targeted support for a comprehensive policy to address the rising costs and impact of inflation on our industry. We must take advantage of the current election cycle to elevate the need for these critical state investments. To make this campaign successful, we need you.

To find out more and to pledge your support, click here.

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Blogger Jenni Cowley’s Take On Emotional Abuse

Blogger Jenni Cowley is a former social worker who, after a career sabbatical to raise her two youngsters, decided to begin blogging about about mental health topics.

Emotional Abuse – Can It Cause Longer Lasting Damage than Domestic Abuse?

Statistics show that approximately one in four women living in America will suffer from domestic abuse at some point in their lives. Sadly, many women stay in abusive relationships long after the first violent act has been committed against them.  This is a pattern which is all too common with victims of domestic abuse and it begs the question ‘why stay?’. The answer is far more complex than people realize, with violence often an outcome which is preceded by long term emotional devastation. The fact is, those individuals who abuse their partners do so from a need to quell their own insecurities and physical violence is just one way in which their own psychological problems manifest.  Likewise, where physical scars heal over time, emotional scars can take years – decades – to become less painful.  A victim of domestic violence may learn to trust new partners in future but learning to trust their own emotions whilst having faith in their own talents and abilities can take far longer. This article aims to take a closer look at the devastation caused by emotional abuse and asks if the healing process is the same for each victim.

What is Emotional Abuse?

Put simply, emotional abuse is anything that hurts the feelings of another person. In relationships, it commonly manifests as verbal put-downs and insults, backhanded compliments and fear based manipulation. Examples include; “You are no good at doing that and nobody likes you”, “You look much better with more make-up” and “one of these days I will leave you and you will be alone for ever because nobody will want you”.  Emotional abuse can also manifest with a look or a tone of voice – basically, if it hurts your feelings or upset you in anyway, it is probably damaging your self esteem and therefore can be classed as emotional abuse.

What Are the Long Term Effects of Emotional Abuse?

Have you ever heard of the phrase ‘self- fulfilling prophecy?’ This phrase is key within the formation of a physically abusive relationship and goes some way to explain why so many victims stay with abusive partners for so long.  A self fulfilling prophecy is a belief which comes true because somebody else says it will. If we transpose this into an abusive relationship, it is easy to see why victims believe what their abuser is telling them – if they are consistently told they are no good, useless, can’t function alone  etc then it stands to reason that their behavior will ultimately reflect the abuser’s conviction despite the illogical and untrue nature of such statements. The effects of hearing such statements (and believing them) is to undermine the victim’s often fragile self esteem, resulting in an innate questioning of any positive assumptions previously held. Such shattering of an individual’s self-esteem can also result in behavioral changes which often manifest as serious addiction and substance abuse problems as a coping mechanism. Such addictions expose the user to potentially devastating health problems like HIV, Hepatitis C liver failure or even death –  and this clearly shows that emotional abuse can be at least as (if not more) damaging than physical violence.

Healing from Emotional Abuse

The healing process for both domestic violence and emotional abuse is similar and focuses on re-building the individual’s self esteem whilst trying to change core negative beliefs which have resulted from the abusive relationship. Many psychologists eschew the virtues associated with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy as a means of challenging negative beliefs and changing thought patterns although support groups and group therapy can often be of great benefit to the victim. The most crucial element of recovery from emotional and physical abuse is distance between you and the person who is abusing you. Those who leave abusive relationships frequently express profound relief that they have finally made the leap from victim to survivor and it is once a physical distance is in place that psychological and emotional healing can begin in earnest. It may take years to undo the damage caused by an abusive partner but those who have made the journey are stronger, happier and wiser and are truly inspirational to us all.

REFERENCES

Help Guide.org ‘ Emotional abuse and addiction’ Accessed 20th May 2014 http://www.helpguide.org/mental/emotional_psychological_trauma.htm

Sober Recovery ‘Alcoholism as coping mechanism’ Accessed 20th May 2014 http://www.soberrecovery.com

Addiction Treatment Magazine ‘Addiction and domestic violence’ Accessed 20th May 2014 http://www.addictiontreatmentmagazine.com/addiction/domestic-violence-substance-abuse/

Dr Phil ‘How to tell if you are in an emotionally abusive relationship’ Accessed 20th May 2014 http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/21

Cognitive Therapy New York ‘Cognitive Therapy America’ Accessed 20th May 2014 http://www.cognitivetherapynyc.com/

Emotional Heal.org ‘Healing from emotional abuse’ Accessed 20th May 2014 http://emotionalheal.org/myths.htm

Medicine.net ‘Health problems caused by addiction’ Accessed 20th May 2014

http://www.medicinenet.com/drug_abuse/related-conditions/index.htm

STD Panels ‘HIV as a result of addicton’ Accessed 20th May 2014

http://www.stdpanels.com/coping-with-hiv-diagnosis/

Livestrong.com ‘Effects of emotionally abusive relationship’ Accessed 20th May 2014

http://www.livestrong.com/article/93111-longterm-effects-emotionally-abusive-relationship/

Psychology Today  Self fulfilling prophecies’ Accessed 20th May 2014

http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200504/self-fulfilling-prophecies

Psychology Today ‘Effects of emotional abuse’ Accessed 20th May 2014

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/anger-in-the-age-entitlement/200808/effects-emotional-abuse-it-hurts-when-i-love

Safe Horizon.org ‘ Statistics USA Domestic violence’ Accessed 20th May 2014

http://www.safehorizon.org/index/what-we-do-2/domestic-violence–abuse-53/domestic-violence-statistics–facts-195.html

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